Avoid Emotional Manipulation In A Relationship

Many see love as an exchange of tenderness and willpower, a balance between give and take. If you give everything but get nothing, you will feel empty and manipulated. Your self-esteem will not be enough to find daily happiness.

Emotions and sensations form the core of our life and make us human. Indescribable feelings from greatest happiness to deep sadness accompany us on our way. We are all prone to emotional manipulation at times .

Seldom is someone as vulnerable as in a state of infatuation: love is blind! It can happen that the partner takes advantage of this to get to his goal through emotional manipulation .

1. How do you recognize emotional manipulation?

It is not difficult to see if someone is being manipulated emotionally. But being deeply in love is an exceptional state in which a lot is not perceived or perceived differently. Some people mistake dominance for love.

Statements like “He’s jealous because he loves me” are normal, but often lead to great difficulties in the long run. Let’s take a closer look at this topic.

• To love does not mean to own the other

Many couples love to do all of the activities together. Excursions, going out, sport … this is very positive and sometimes necessary. There should not be a one-sided control.

Some people do not think it is right for their partner to go out alone, have friends of their own, or have their own professional life.

If so, great caution should be exercised. Love doesn’t mean controlling the other or forbidding things. In this case one often hears sentences like: “Are you planning to go out with these clothes?”.

“Why are you going out with this friend, you have me?”, “If you do that, you show me that you love me. I give everything for you and you don’t appreciate that! “

• Care of self-esteem

The emotional manipulation destroys self-esteem. In a relationship you try to give your partner everything, he is loved above all and comes first. All of this is positive and honest, but self-protection is also important. 

If your partner prefers their own needs and acts selfishly, you will suffer from them and feel bad on a daily basis. Love is an exchange of affection and voluntary attentions.

There should be a balance between give and take in a relationship  . If only one partner gives everything, over time they will feel empty. He feels manipulated and loses his self-esteem – daily happiness falls by the wayside.

• Gradual loss of identity

Before starting a relationship, you may have had a group of friends who made you happy, with whom you could share projects, activities, and daily goals. However, those who fall in love with the wrong person can suffer greatly.

Sometimes this cannot be prevented, it just happens and takes us on an emotional roller coaster. Some people are not mature enough for a healthy relationship. Instead of happiness, they bring problems and cause the suffering partner to lose their identity.

It can get to the point that the partner forbids certain friendships, his interests come first, and even does your activities badly.

When the partner disparages you, criticizes your activities, and manipulates and changes your personality, an honest, equal relationship becomes an impossibility. Where is the initially happy person full of dreams?

How can you avoid emotional manipulation?

To avoid emotional manipulation, it is important to know your own limits. How far can you go in a relationship? Where is the limit? When you realize that you are no longer happy, it is time to make a change. 

This is easy to understand, but many people insist on their relationship even after they have not been happy for a long time. Why? There are various reasons for this:

• Even when they no longer feel happy, they  love their partner. The first step is always complicated and painful.
• For fear of loneliness.
• For fear  that the partner might take a negative view of the end of the relationship.

Consistency and courage are necessary. An answer to the question of whether you would like to spend your whole life with someone who holds your breath away and manipulates you in their own interest. A person who doesn’t respect you . 

You may not dare to draw a line, but once you realize that the relationship is toxic, carefully consider the pros and cons and draw the necessary conclusions.

Seek support from friends or family to find strength that is usually lacking. Giving up a relationship is never easy and always painful for both partners. But you shouldn’t forget that everyone has a right to a happy life.

You always deserve the best. to wake up calmly and full of joy and zest for life every day. There are sure to be people who are able to make you happy and appreciate your values.