5 Virtues That Should Not Be Missing In Any Love Relationship

Those who want to feel realized must not build a relationship on dependency. You have to accept each other without submitting. Respect and illusion are key to a successful relationship.

A long-lasting, healthy and happy love relationship is the dream of many. There is no silver bullet for this, but there are fundamental virtues that should not be missing in any relationship.

In this post, we’ll go into five of these positive values.

Virtues in a love affair

1. Give and take without asking

Some make the mistake of sacrificing everything for love without expecting anything in return. However, if the balance is out of whack and you get neither attention nor respect , the relationship will not work out in the long run.

A love relationship means giving and taking without demanding. I give you my love and expect to be respected, understood and noticed for it. But when an imbalance arises, it leads to suffering and frustration. Open up to the other person with the certainty that you will get the same from them as well.

2. Love without dependence or submission

Another very common mistake is building a relationship based on dependency. Those who get used to depending on someone else do not feel realized, which is especially noticeable when there is jealousy or suspicion.

Love does not require addiction or submission. Only without coercion,  dominance or control of the other can the relationship be happy. 

The ideal is to find someone who trusts you and loves you, but doesn’t take your breath away or set limits.

Personal freedom is crucial to maintaining self-esteem and self-confidence.

3. Listen and learn to discuss

Discussions are normal even in a good, long-term relationship. In fact, disagreements can be very beneficial. They help to get to know us better, to set norms and limits and also to better fathom the personality of the partner.

However, a discussion should always be constructive and never humiliating. Both should learn from disputes and make mutual agreements.

That is why  listening is one of the basic virtues!  Do not judge immediately, but try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and recognize their needs.

Conversations, ideas and suggestions,  an open mind and understanding are important to prevent hurtful arguments. Discussing means understanding and also learning.

4. Able to adapt

It should be clear to you from the start  that you cannot change your partner. He shouldn’t try to do that either, because it will lose his own identity.

• A simple example: You like the outdoors and you have made it a habit to go hiking with friends or family on weekends. However, he prefers to stay at home in front of the television or chatting with a computer game. You love each other, but interests are different. Is that why you have to give up your hikes right away? Should he change his habits? In this case, it is a matter of adapting to the other and maintaining both activities. On one weekend he can go hiking with you, on another you can watch a movie together.

In order to make these agreements, respect and enjoyment in joint projects in the relationship are sufficient  .

5. Daily similarities and joy

Love feeds on little things every day. Small attentions and gestures are important to  maintain common dreams every day and to strengthen the relationship.

This calls for efforts and small details to show the loved one how important they are. You too should be able to enjoy attentions and tokens of love.

An unexpected tenderness, a good morning kiss, a good night’s sleep and joint activities, admiring the loved one … all of this builds a good relationship and at the same time strengthens the mutual happiness and stability of the partnership.

An ideal relationship is built every day. These simple virtues will help you get started today. You deserve to be happy, don’t forget that!